
A few Friday nights ago we pondered the question of our “best dates ever” over late night tater tots at Daddy-O’s. We don’t know if an apparent dearth of great dates, or the drink we had just invented called Le Vodka Surprise was to blame, but we had a difficult time staying on topic. We had tales galore of bad dates to rehash, but couldn’t pinpoint a date that could be described as The.Best.Date.Ever.
Thankfully, Le Vodka Surprise fried potato combo eventually worked like truth serum on our otherwise prone-to-denial brains and we begrudgingly admitted that our all-time favorite dates were with the very same men that inspired our blog. After publicizing how the recession reduced them to mojo-less stress-balls, we can’t help but to hope this retrospective in some way rectifies some of the emotional damage we inflicted upon those two poor schmoes by dating us.
Kristen Flanagan reports for Glamour: Glamour.com
Eight hours of conversational bliss
We had met once before, but this was our first date. It had taken weeks of texting and both actual and fake rescheduling—a girl can never be too hard to get—to finally get together. I don’t remember exactly where we went, but what I do remember was conversation that could only be described as magical. It was laden with quick, snappy banter, and one story begot three more. I could barely get in my signature “So one time at Oktoberfest…” story amiss all of his “So one time when I was working in Asia…” stories. The date lasted for eight hours without one awkward silence—surely a world record.
What could be better than a surprise getaway?
Being the country-lovin’ gal I claim to be—a pretense half based in truth and half part of my “look what a cool down-to-earth chick I am” shtick—it makes sense that my number one date wasn’t in the city. It was during Fashion Week. My date aptly observed my quickly rising stress levels and decided to whisk me away to the Berkshires. While he put our promptly packed bags in the train’s overhead compartment, I called my coworkers pleading the flu and a self-imposed quarantine—for their sake, of course. (And if they’re reading this, I’m hoping they’ll forgive me in the name of love.) He and I spent the weekend eating numerous lobster rolls and then swimming in the lake—without waiting the recommended hour. The thrill of skipping work and forgoing my childhood lifeguard warning was just enough excitement to really heat things up.
Tags: Daddy O's, Glamour magazine
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First dates — I hate them. I have one tonight. This is my 5th on this year! How many first dates do you girls go on? I feel like I’m doing something wrong. I can’t seem to close the deal. Out of 4 that have already taken place, I ended 3 never turned into a 2nd date and 1 turned into a 2 month relationship. It’s frustrating. Have any pointers/tips? This one is super important (he’s cute, smart, well-established, and only 26!) and my nerves are already getting to me. Any quick advice would be appreciated!
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Fake rescheduling is a doomed tactic. The way to convey that you’re hard to get is by actually being hard to get, not to fake it.
The way to be hard to get is to judge a guy on his merits and have high standards. It really is that simple. When you cancel dates just to make him work, you’re only judging him based on his ability to put up with stupid bullshit. So, unless you plan on dishing out a lot of stupid bullshit, it’s a pretty useless metric. Although, if he’s a lawyer, it’s 100% relevant, because if he can’t put up with stupid dating bullshit, he’ll never be able to handle stupid law firm bullshit.
So, if you don’t plan on being the psycho manipulative girl that guys warn other guys about (”don’t stick it in the crazy”) then just be yourself.
Dating is essentially an information exchange. You’re exchanging information about yourselves, figuring out compatibility and gauging if the other person is attracted to you. But, when you do things like make up a reason to cancel a date, you’re sending false information. Sending misinformation can help you get your foot in the door, but as things progress he’ll just discover that he’s been the victim of a bait and switch. Just remember how you feel when you find out that a guy has exaggerated what his job is.
If you think you need to make stuff up to attract a guy, you should be more concerned with working on yourself than just working on your bag of tricks.
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BL1Y, where did you go? Miss your blog….



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