Signs We Wish We Had Paid Attention to from the Beginning

Ladies and gents,

There are always signs at the beginning of a relationship. Some signs say that the other person is still heartbroken from their last relationship (they can’t stop talking about their ex), some signs say that they are dating other people (they unknowingly repeat stories), some signs suggest that it’s never going to work even though the other person is perfectly nice (they ask you what “gnocchi” is), and some signs say that you should Get.Out.Now. The below text message exchange from one of our readers is a prime example of the last scenario.

xoxo

The DABA Girls

Run ladies run! (after you've had dinner on him)

Last night I went on what I thought was a fabulous date with a dashing investment banker who I had met over port at the Capital Grille the night before.  I returned home, excited for our next adventure when he returned from several cross-country business trips.  Then this text message “conversation” (and I use the term loosely) occurred.  My thoughts in italics.

B: You have a way, but really, you are a very beautiful and smart woman….I find it a bit peculiar….nice but…I am not a frivolous person (What the heck??  Also, this implies that I am a frivolous person)

Me: Thank you for the compliments (although “peculiar” falls into the “prim” category…not quite sure whether that’s supposed to be good J )! (We had been joking about my grandma calling my Christmas decorations “prim”)

B: I would like to think that our meeting was auspicious, a romantic perhaps…you have piqued my attention and that‘s rare don’t want to waste anyone’s time (Ummmm…this is our first date…)

Me: I spend my time just how I please and I feel blessed I had the opportunity to spend it with you J (Feeling insulted but trying to be tactful….and I really did have a great time on our date.)

B: Fair enough, I hope we get a lot more and have great experiences

Me: Me too! (Not so sure this is true after this weird text exchange!!) Sweet dreams!

B: Good night chat soon

The next morning:

B: Good morning, think I may owe you an apology from last night… (ya think???)

Me: I’m all for honesty…hope your morning is going well! (“Honesty” meaning “thanks for the warning that you may be a nut job”)

B: I got the feeling you were uncomfortable with my advances

Me: I’m old-fashioned in more than my taste in restaurants J (Sloooowwww down buddy…I’ve known you for two days)

B: I understand and appreciate that again I am sorry if I made you uncomfortable, I enjoy your company and look forward to learning more…!

Me: I had a fabulous time with you and look forward to hearing about your adventures when you return J

A few hours later:

B: Would it be too much to ping you from time to time? (I have no idea what this means—grammar and spelling his.  I have not written back.)

DABA ladies, please advise.  My brief foray into the world of dating a banker has been unusual, to say the least.  Should I give him another chance or invest my time elsewhere?

Dear H,