DABA Dictionary

Well this indeed is a very interesting site if I may say. Have you and your bunch ever thought about dating guys who have real dreams and inspirations instead of everything centered around money all the time. I know I am not a banker, but I found true happiness and my sex life is 100 percent great, and I don’t have millions. Perhaps, all the women on this board should put those millions to good use by making the world a better place to live instead of making a better place to live for a very few. Sorry to say ladies, the era of its my way and I want it all now I am afraid is coming to a close, and just like I have had to live within my means as a white male, and by the way I have a college degree in finance, but chosen to put that education to good use to enhance the life of others, I feel more rewarded in what I do with my life. As I learn more about Wallstreet and how its really ruined people’s lives and how corrupt the culture is, just tells me that culture is not for a good hearted person such as myself. Anyone who wants to scorn me go ahead, but I enjoy making comments that I hope will make probally no sense to you all considering I am probally a peasant to those upper rich class women. I may not have ferraris,or mansions, but I am rich in good kindness and deeds, and thats something if more rich people would do on this planet, we all be rich in standard of living and quality of life. Good day all and you all stay sweet.

Clearly it is…and I love it.

my jealousy cannot be contained. i’d pay good money for a solid how-to guide.

no, seriously.

hello,
I visited your site after reading a comment about it in a Brazilian magazine.
I thought your site is very funny and intelligent because after the big crash we had many darks results and your site explain this situation in a unique way. Because it’s possible to look the side “b” of DABA’ S glamour and good life.

I’m the father of a DABA girl and love your website. She is 22 and just finishing her Bachelors degree. We read this site together every evening. Her mom and I have been married for 26 years and mom and daughter agree that what a great world it would be if all girls (under 40) were DABA girls. Keep up the great letters. It’s a pleasant way to spend a few minutes each evening between the wars and financial system failing.
Good Luck to all your DABA dreams.
PS Tell the “Tom from New York” comment that PROBALLY is spelled PROBABLY! I can see why his degree in Finance lead to a lower paying but “happier” job. Yeah, Right. DABA girls rule!!!!!!!!!!

This is why the rest of the world has such a bad perception of the USA, but the more shocking material here is “A DABA Girl dad.” What self respecting parent would condone this behavior?!?!? But from his comments, it clearly seems, that his world revolves around money too. Never mind world hunger, cancer, or poverty, as long as DABA girls can have their Gucci purses, all is well in the world according to their warped sense of reality.

People who live to make money and buy expensive goods and services are truly missing out on life.

Dear Olivia,
You poor dear old,old,old lady of 45?
I gotta tell ya that the UK has done a really bad job with their stock market as well. (FTSE, just in case you are so out of touch with DABA girl parents that you think we are all still colonials like way back when, 1929?).
Get a life, enjoy this website as much as my husband and I do and stop taking yourself soooooooo seriously that you are compelled to pass judgement on folks 4000 miles away!!
DABA girls rule and will have their time again when the next generation blindly buys far more than they can possibly afford and lavish all such extras on the girlfriends. I might add that women make up nearly half of the workforce and I am proud that my daughter will make as much or more than the average male worker. Certainly she should aspire to a FBF and rule with other DABA girls. Set your sights high girls, you will get only a few chances to succeed while young, glamazon and have parents who will support your aspirations!!! Watch the movie Family Man (Made in 2000, way before AR)with Nicolaus Cage for a “he said, she said” viewpoint of second chances.

Hi girls,

I think this website is downright hilarious and I love it. So when I remembered reading this article I thought it’d be funny to send it over your way. Its not that recent (about a month) but its funny. Hope you enjoy!

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/science/article5537017.ece

Stephanie

Thanks for the command and notification Angie. I bet your children love the way you espouse that “young ladies will die an early death”. By the by Angie “disposible” is spelled disposable and you really need to work on your English dear. We do not condone the slash mark to separate nouns like your Walmart college diploma would have us all believe. Now, please note my post spoke of an educated daughter who will “rule with a FBF”. Not the tone deaf blah blah blah of being some rich guys boyfriend until replaced. I am nearing retirement in a short decade and have been married all my years to an educated and wealthy man six years my junior. I have worked hard at my job and raised a loving daughter who deserves the same as I have enjoyed. Yes Angie dear, we all reach 45 and older, but some of us have removed the bug up our a** in the process of living life every day, not criticizing with bad spelling and harsh commands. What would your mother say to you?

PS:

Married to a dude six years your junior? You forgot to say HOW LONG! Your life isn’t over yet, momma leech. Give me an update in ten years or so.

Angie: Your mother would be proud that your bad spelling is the “LEAST” of your problems? So she’s proud that you have bigger problems than your spelling? What sort of fantastic problems do you have that your mom is proud of?

Will a book & a reality series be next??? In that case Laney HAS A BRAND NEW JOB!

I LOVE this blog! Finally a witty woman writing a blog on things some might see but almost no one has touched upon in the mainstream(well except Candace Bushnell in Trading up and 4 Blondes and a few others)
You nail so many things! Its fabulous and amusing! I consider myself a Miami DABA with a FBF with a hedge fund)
You should have a south Florida section - there’s an endless number of bottle poppers, dabbas and golddiggers in Miami, Boca, Palm Beach and the likes. Sure it’s in the AR state but anyone in the scene know there’s still quite a few players in it!

FBF’s are so 2008. Where have you been the last 14 weeks?

TNE’s rule in the AR age. Trade your wintel machine for a sleek Apple, the only real fashion the TNE’s care about. Junk your Bergdorf card for LL Bean. Put on your jeans and T and take the next Acela north to Cambridge while there’s still time to snare a TNE of your very own.

You may have to load your own dishwasher for a year or two and cut back to monthly waxings while your TNE works fourteen hour days in an old warehouse to create the PRB.

Once the Post Recession Boom hits, can your very own Techy Nerd Entrepreneur’s IPO be far behind? Then, with the inevitability of Moore’s Law, the ski chalet in Aspen, the new fully loaded Prius and laser hair removal will be yours.

Is accurate spelling not a prerequisite for a respectable degree in the US? It’s social conscience, not social conscious. Dolts.

It appears the standard for entry into a ’successful career’ in the US is low. This must be an elaborate hoax.

Thank you for the supporting comments Briseis. My daughter also applauds my unwavering support of her college and new freedoms that passing 21 years old allows. Our family views the DABA’s with the humor that it is meant to impart. Women of this generation are not shallow or needy since they already make up half of the workforce and in many cases earn as much as their boyfriends or husbands. Women do desire a better standard of living if it is possible and the FBF is simply a superior choice to a blue collar worker. Our extended family in Texas has many cousins and by comparision the college educated financial and real estate and petroleum husbands fare far better than the mechanics and factory workers. My wife guides our daughter in all such matters and her deep intellect and Texas strength of character earns my respect. Much of our family success is due to her sense of insight and I find this quality among the women portrayed in the stories on this website. I will inject that the nerdy men I have encountered in my lifetime are lacking the “soul” that “real” men display as quality. the nerds tend to settle on an inferior lifestyle and are rarely willing to fight for a better quality of life or wife for that matter. Perhaps as nature intended, since women desire a strong and mature provider in a husband. If she settles for a nerdy FBF, she is truly settling for an inferior life. DABA’s demand a better social class than women of earlier generations. In my trips to Europe over the years, the mystique of American women as self assertive and independent has always made an impression on my view of this next generation of women in the workforce. Rene Zellweger (who knew that our families all went to Katy, Texas High School together over the years) in Bridget Jones diary showed the American versus English view of how Europeans view American women. Seize the day DABA’s and expect and demand that your parents send you to college, arrange for the start of an upper class lifestyle and your part of the bargain is to self-educate and work very hard with a WORTHY HUSBAND to provide for your children and look after your parents and in-laws as they grow older.

I and I been up to Babalon many a times, de DABA girls ah real, me git a few for fun but no DABAs for de long term, not up wit nature and da true freedoms so the DABAs will never feel da true human love.

Peace.

I recently discovered this site through my friend and OMG, I LOVEEEE IT!!! Although I’m not into “Finance”, I am a pretty fabulous, young 24 year old 3rd year law student in Boston. My dream is to move to NYC upon graduating, find a fabulous job and a fabulous FBF. And your website makes me honestly believe that my dream is just around the corner. Now only if I can focus on finishing up law school….

A book contract, really? Then a movie deal I suppose.

This happens to be one of the most informative blogs I have seen in the online dating field. Your topics are exactly what beginners need and useful for the older generation as well. The mistakes men make are appalling and often they just don’t realize it as you have pointed out. Your insight is a breath of fresh air. There are many relevant comments here. I am looking forward to seeing more great posts from you.

I love this site. For the people who bitch about this site and putting down Daba Girl Mom & Dad, who are you to judge? Everyones world and standards are different depending on what society they grow up or live in. It’s all relative and I don’t believe any of you have the right to pass judgement on this site, the point of this site or anybody that supports it or lives this way of life. If you don’t belong here, then instead of spreading your negatvity preaching about what is “right”…leaving this site is ONE click away all you Mother Teresas. Go save the world.

Hm, interesting.

Fact: I am an ivy-league grad with a great job, great boyfriend, fantastic life. I come from a privileged background (my mother was an extremely successful entrepreneur, and my father, whom she married after she became successful, a lawyer), and I appreciate it. They fell in love with each other without knowing of each other’s potential - my mother was keeping it on the low for business purposes, and my father had not yet decided to go to law school (actually, at the time, he was contemplating social work, interestingly, which pays like…zero dollars.) I love to dress up and get girly (being attractive (according to others anyway) helps). I don’t focus on opulence, but I enjoy the good things to the extent that I can. I feel grateful that I have a job in this economy (a few friends and family members from on low to up high have lost jobs - Ivy degrees and multiple post-grad degrees don’t seem to always matter). My career is just starting out (actually, grad school is on the horizon for Sept. 2011), and I dont make a TON of money (i’m not in finance), but I live very comfortably.

However, I really do find this site disturbing. It’s humorous if you take it with a grain of salt, but the sad fact is that these girls are *serious.* I certainly plan on making a lotta dough in my life (in order to support myself and my family), and I have no intention of marrying ‘blue collar’ (though there’s nothing wrong with it) - I simply find more intellectual fulfillment in someone of equal rigor (eg, my bf, who went to another prized school). However, I would NEVER in a million years isolate bankers (or even rich guys) as my sole population of choice. I try to make my decisions based on other, more important things, like sexual and personality compatibility, attractiveness, sweetness, sensitivity, etc. (Bankers are often intellectually starved - their critical thinking reaches a limit once you move past accepted norms - unless youre talking about business moves. That’s an admirable thing, but it certainly isn’t enough.)

Anyway, I find your approach fairly appalling. My assumption is that you girls in this position are either: not that attractive, not that intelligent, or are morally bankrupt (if not bankrupt in other ways). You remind me of all the wannabe’s in college who *wanted* to be like the well-off girls, but never could. They thought that if they just had the right friends, the right boyfriends, and if they spent enough time coercing boys into doing their bidding, they would live the life they dreamed of. This is what I imagine the majority of BADA girls to be. Unlike someone with real financial and emotional wealth, you feel the need to acquire it. You’re social climbers. (I never flaunted my wealth and always made friends based on the quality of the person’s character - but you wouldn’t know anything about making friends that way- or at least not with the same moral rigor that some people do.)

Anyone who chooses to allow money to be the primary decision motivator in all aspects of life has got to be. I mean, we all wish to partner up with someone like ourselves (eg if I”m successful, I want to partner up with someone who’s successful - but ’successful’ is a very broad term and can mean anything from having a socially rich, but financially modest life, to having a successful career in, say, non-profit management - or tech nerdiness, for that matter.) But to explicitly base your mate selection on money alone just seems stupid, shallow, and short-sighted. Goodness forbid the financial systems actually crashed…you’d be out on the sidewalk with a broken heel and running make up, with no one to protect you (except for maybe mom and dad). And dont even TRY to say ‘Oh, i’d pay for my own lifestyle…” You know you couldn’t last a minute on one salary.

I truly wish for all of you to #1 find the real way (of actually being genuine and thoughtful and deep and not focusing on money as the primary thing in life), and #2, if #1 fails, I hope you lose it all, and fast, and never recover. Let’s see what a touch of real life, as it feels to most people in the world, feels like to you.

And you DABA mom, quit tryin’ to make yourself feel better with charity for all the shit you focus on during the rest of your life. Spending 5% (or even 75%) of your time on charity doesnt ethically redeem you if the rest of your time is spent focusing on how to get more money.

The world would be a better place if there were fewer people like all of you.

PS - I’ve already spent way too much time on this comment, and I refuse to go back and check my writing style. So if you BADA moms, dads, and whoevers have no better counter arguments than to criticize style, I welcome you. But I felt my perspective needed to be heard - that not all people with success and ambition act like you morons.