Comments on: It All Started When… http://www.dabagirls.com Are you or someone you love dating a banker? If so, we are here to support you through these difficult times. Dating A Banker Anonymous (DABA) is a safe place where women can come together – free from the scrutiny of feminists– and share their tearful tales of how the mortgage meltdown has affected their relationships. So if your monthly Bergdorf’s allowance has been halved and bottle service has all but disappeared from your life, lighten your heart with laughter and email your stories to dabagirls@gmail.com. Warning all stories sent will be infused with our own special brand of DABA Girl humor. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:39:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: FDA http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-9067 FDA Thu, 10 Dec 2009 05:00:06 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-9067 This site is absolutely brilliant! Right on target with everything a girl goes through who has a FBF. I have been in a relationship on and off with a very VIP FBF for nearly 6 years and let me assure you the OFF times were 99.9% due to his work related issues/personality "disorders" created by work issues, the giant EGO that came from all of the money he may as well have been printing on his own press, the associated Rolls Royces, Bentleys, Astons, blah blah blah that allowed him to have whatever girl he wanted at any given time and then the downfall of the empire along with everyone else in the country when the economy crashed. The beauty in that, even though he is now rebuilding JUST fine is that he learned a little something called humility. Now, as any GF to a FBF knows, "humble" and "compassion" are not 2 of the most common words in the FBFs vocab (their gag reflexes generally go off at the meer mention), but even the slightest hint of it now that he went through it all is enough to make me believe that all of the ups and downs we have been through have been worth while. Not to mention that I can still write him text messages while at Barneys demanding a new Prada bag for my upcoming bbday and feel just fine about it, so all in all we are both winners :) And yes, to all the cynics on this freaking site who do not seem to get it I am a very well educated, empowered early 30s lady who makes a 6 figure income on my own and has owned my own property/condo for almost 10 years now, it is with loving eyes wide open that I accept the trials and tribulations (he literally SCREAMED at me while eating dinner at his house a few nights ago when I had the audacity to ask him what that little jingle was that he has as his cell phone ring) of being with an FBF to reap the benefits (he is the strongest, most amazingly smart man I know) and feel confident that the relationship we have built is one of true love, care, and unconditional support. But what's the harm in having an awesome site like this to vent and feel understood by other lovely women in similar situations? Absolutely nothing! Especially since it WAS my FBF who turned me onto this site in the first place, ha! This site is absolutely brilliant! Right on target with everything a girl goes through who has a FBF. I have been in a relationship on and off with a very VIP FBF for nearly 6 years and let me assure you the OFF times were 99.9% due to his work related issues/personality “disorders” created by work issues, the giant EGO that came from all of the money he may as well have been printing on his own press, the associated Rolls Royces, Bentleys, Astons, blah blah blah that allowed him to have whatever girl he wanted at any given time and then the downfall of the empire along with everyone else in the country when the economy crashed. The beauty in that, even though he is now rebuilding JUST fine is that he learned a little something called humility. Now, as any GF to a FBF knows, “humble” and “compassion” are not 2 of the most common words in the FBFs vocab (their gag reflexes generally go off at the meer mention), but even the slightest hint of it now that he went through it all is enough to make me believe that all of the ups and downs we have been through have been worth while. Not to mention that I can still write him text messages while at Barneys demanding a new Prada bag for my upcoming bbday and feel just fine about it, so all in all we are both winners :) And yes, to all the cynics on this freaking site who do not seem to get it I am a very well educated, empowered early 30s lady who makes a 6 figure income on my own and has owned my own property/condo for almost 10 years now, it is with loving eyes wide open that I accept the trials and tribulations (he literally SCREAMED at me while eating dinner at his house a few nights ago when I had the audacity to ask him what that little jingle was that he has as his cell phone ring) of being with an FBF to reap the benefits (he is the strongest, most amazingly smart man I know) and feel confident that the relationship we have built is one of true love, care, and unconditional support. But what’s the harm in having an awesome site like this to vent and feel understood by other lovely women in similar situations? Absolutely nothing! Especially since it WAS my FBF who turned me onto this site in the first place, ha!

]]> By: Tina http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-8322 Tina Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:11:43 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-8322 Wow! I recently came across this site and it blew my mind away. I met my guy when he was visiting Vegas and we hit it off right away, strangely he is from England where I am moving to finish my university (where I used to live a few years ago). So we coulnd't help keeping intouch when he went back home and we really do have a strong connection but ofcourse agreed to not get too caught up until I move there (which will be soon). Though things have already been quite intense, weve had small arguments and his life of stress and banking creates stress on us when we arent even serious yet. Though we do have unmistakeable feelings for eachother. I really felt alone and was wondering what was wrong with me and what I was doing wrong until I found this site. I mean hes a wonderful guy, but his work comes FIRST and has a direct impact on how he is with me. I don't know how to deal with it sometimes, but I really do like him a lot and I know it will be better once we can physically be together. I can sort of understand when one girl posted that finance guys in their 20's are a nightmare, I mean my guy is not horrible but weve had some crazy arguments and I find myself feeling sort of neglected when it comes to his job. I know I have to understand that his life is very different from mine ( I am a model here in Vegas, going over to UK where he lives to finish my law degree at my former university). He also disapproves of my life here in Vegas which causes stress too (for him). All I want to say is this site has made me feel that I am not alone, that his behaviour is because of his high stress finaance life and I realise that I will have to suffer emotionally sometimes. Hes even warned me, that times will be really hard sometimes but promised me the good will outweigh the bad. Does this sound familiar to any of you girls? Wow! I recently came across this site and it blew my mind away. I met my guy when he was visiting Vegas and we hit it off right away, strangely he is from England where I am moving to finish my university (where I used to live a few years ago). So we coulnd’t help keeping intouch when he went back home and we really do have a strong connection but ofcourse agreed to not get too caught up until I move there (which will be soon). Though things have already been quite intense, weve had small arguments and his life of stress and banking creates stress on us when we arent even serious yet. Though we do have unmistakeable feelings for eachother.

I really felt alone and was wondering what was wrong with me and what I was doing wrong until I found this site. I mean hes a wonderful guy, but his work comes FIRST and has a direct impact on how he is with me. I don’t know how to deal with it sometimes, but I really do like him a lot and I know it will be better once we can physically be together.

I can sort of understand when one girl posted that finance guys in their 20’s are a nightmare, I mean my guy is not horrible but weve had some crazy arguments and I find myself feeling sort of neglected when it comes to his job. I know I have to understand that his life is very different from mine ( I am a model here in Vegas, going over to UK where he lives to finish my law degree at my former university). He also disapproves of my life here in Vegas which causes stress too (for him). All I want to say is this site has made me feel that I am not alone, that his behaviour is because of his high stress finaance life and I realise that I will have to suffer emotionally sometimes. Hes even warned me, that times will be really hard sometimes but promised me the good will outweigh the bad. Does this sound familiar to any of you girls?

]]> By: Alexandra http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-4174 Alexandra Thu, 18 Jun 2009 14:06:08 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-4174 I am a DABA girl, my boyfriend works about 100+ hours a week, and if he's not spending time at the office he's sleeping or in a bad mood & talking about work. I am trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel but is there one? I am a DABA girl, my boyfriend works about 100+ hours a week, and if he’s not spending time at the office he’s sleeping or in a bad mood & talking about work. I am trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel but is there one?

]]> By: giselle http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-2182 giselle Mon, 27 Apr 2009 21:36:35 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-2182 im lovin it! so what, one guy doesn't work, neeeeeeeeext! as they say "there's plenty of fish in the sea daaahling!" im lovin it!
so what, one guy doesn’t work, neeeeeeeeext!
as they say “there’s plenty of fish in the sea daaahling!”

]]> By: Callie. http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-2103 Callie. Fri, 24 Apr 2009 08:44:21 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-2103 I LOVE this. I'm a (relatively low level!) DABA Girl from the uk, and unfortunately soon to be one of the many girls dating a Lost Boy. This site really made my day! Its so great to laugh again. The last 6 months have been horrendous for us. I went from being the pampered spoilt fiancée, to the girl learning to cook her own steak, and take up her own hems. Big change! I've taken to it quite well, and I'm trying to make the best of things (Its weirdly satisfying altering your dresses yourself....>.<) but my FBF hasnt at all, and I hate to see him so low. (....its true about the sex too. *sighs*) I LOVE this. I’m a (relatively low level!) DABA Girl from the uk, and unfortunately soon to be one of the many girls dating a Lost Boy.

This site really made my day! Its so great to laugh again. The last 6 months have been horrendous for us. I went from being the pampered spoilt fiancée, to the girl learning to cook her own steak, and take up her own hems. Big change!

I’ve taken to it quite well, and I’m trying to make the best of things (Its weirdly satisfying altering your dresses yourself….>.<) but my FBF hasnt at all, and I hate to see him so low. (….its true about the sex too. *sighs*)

]]> By: Antea http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-1877 Antea Fri, 10 Apr 2009 18:19:21 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-1877 as a DABIT (sweet jesus), i find this post somewhat comforting. so forget catrocketship. thank the heavens a blog like this exists. as a DABIT (sweet jesus), i find this post somewhat comforting. so forget catrocketship. thank the heavens a blog like this exists.

]]> By: Erica http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-1692 Erica Fri, 03 Apr 2009 19:27:21 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-1692 I'm officially obsessed. I think this is raw honesty. I love it. I’m officially obsessed. I think this is raw honesty. I love it.

]]> By: Chloe http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-1588 Chloe Tue, 31 Mar 2009 10:41:55 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-1588 Doesn't any girl feel sorry for her man? I have been dating my M&A banker for two years now and it breaks my heart to see him in this state. I don't care about gifts and holidays, I try to make his home life as exciting and relaxing as possible... It's true however that the sex is horrendous and I felt so alone in this (all my other girlfriends are dating artists)...until I found this. Great idea girls. Doesn’t any girl feel sorry for her man? I have been dating my M&A banker for two years now and it breaks my heart to see him in this state. I don’t care about gifts and holidays, I try to make his home life as exciting and relaxing as possible…
It’s true however that the sex is horrendous and I felt so alone in this (all my other girlfriends are dating artists)…until I found this.
Great idea girls.

]]> By: deborah http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-1524 deborah Fri, 27 Mar 2009 12:05:01 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-1524 Humor is what helped the last giant dive in the economy (I'm trying not to use the "D" word.) http://ohhhgirl.wordpress.com/ Humor is what helped the last giant dive in the economy (I’m trying not to use the “D” word.) http://ohhhgirl.wordpress.com/

]]> By: Angie http://www.dabagirls.com/it-all-started-when/comment-page-1/#comment-970 Angie Sun, 08 Mar 2009 00:44:50 +0000 http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/?page_id=162#comment-970 Feminism bad??? Francis Lear....Ivana Trump.....Even Marla Maples. All of these women became feminist -like when there husbands divorced them. Maybe I'm beating a dead horse from the other page. But if you life is ONLY evolved around image & money, be prepared for a big letdown in the future. You get always get a big settlement in a divorce. They can always replace you with the next younger, hotter "DABA". Feminism bad??? Francis Lear….Ivana Trump…..Even Marla Maples. All of these women became feminist -like when there husbands divorced them. Maybe I’m beating a dead horse from the other page. But if you life is ONLY evolved around image & money, be prepared for a big letdown in the future. You get always get a big settlement in a divorce. They can always replace you with the next younger, hotter “DABA”.

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